Given silence in which to speak or rant, they’ll say more than they meant to – even more than they knew they were thinking.
It can be surprising and revealing and paves the way for honesty.
Forming healthy relationships can help teens learn important skills such as cooperation, appropriate behavior, compromise, sensitivity and the ability to understand others’ feelings.
According to Michigan State University Extension experts, these skills can lead to future healthy relationships in adulthood. That’s what makes dating and being in a relationship feel good.
For younger teens, dating is more about having fun, hanging out peers and exploring what they like.
So often, things can be resolved by learning to listen. When you have kids you adore, find time to be just you alone so you remember and remind each other of who you were before they arrived, who you are now, and who you will be when they are gone.
It’s natural that attention shifts to the children, but it’s a good idea to remember why you are together, and have a child together, in the first place.
But if you can both talk honestly about what irritates or upsets you and why, you are more likely to understand each other better.
It can feel easier to avoid being honest if we feel that could be hurtful, but it is only with honesty that trust is built, and trust is the essence of a good relationship. There are different qualities to sex at different stages in a long relationship: first, passion; the urgency of reproductive sex; snatched sex in the early years of parenthood; then the slower intimacy of midlife onwards.